by Bunella
Here it is March already....Valentine's Day
gone and maybe the romanticism of the relationship with
it. I have always thought that someone should be good to
their significant other the entire year, not just on a
sweetheart's holiday, but alas the case just isn't so.
Many of my female friends complain that there isn't
enough romance in their lives (even the ones that are in
relationships - ha ha). The pressures of jobs, children
and everyday issues often gets in the way. Some days you
love him, often you hate him and there are times when you
really don't even like him. Stressed out and angry,
arguments occur and we think......who is this person I'm
involved with? Divorces have been started over less, I'm
sure.
I think we need to understand the changing influences and
feelings in relationships. If you accept that things
change daily at your job; you don't feel the same about
your boss or your co-workers every day, then why can't we
accept that we don't feel the same way in a relationship
every day? That we can't be expected to love someone the
same amount every day or even like them if they piss us
off?
The following is something I clipped out a long time ago
and have had it taped to the kitchen cabinet ever since.
It's helped me through some rocky spots in my
relationship. Feel free to cut it out and use it for your
own.
When you love someone, you do not love
him or her in exactly the same way, from moment to
moment. It is an impossibility. And yet this is
exactly what most of us demand. We have so little
faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of
relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and
resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never
return. We insist on permanency, on continuity, when
the only continuity possible is in growth, in
freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free,
barely touching as they pass but partners in the same
pattern. The only real security in a relationship
lies neither in looking back in nostalgia, nor
forward in dread or anticipation, but living in the
present relationship and accepting it as it is now.
Quote by Ann Morrow Lindbergh who
passed away February 7, 2001 at the age of 94.
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