The other day my girlfriend came over with a male
friend that I hadn't met before. It was just a
drop in visit, around a 10 minute stay.
Immediately upon arrival, this guy, whom I have
never met before, stepped inside my living room
and took his sneakers right off. I was completely
offended, but didn't say anything.
Is it normally considered rude when company comes
over and takes their shoes off? I have noticed
that when my sister-in-law comes over to visit
she always takes off her sandals. I never say
anything because it's not really noticable. I
mean, sandals just kinda slip on and off in a
second or two. When she sits down on the couch
the sandals kinda stay right in front of her on
the floor while her feet dangle above them. I
view this as kinda different then what that guy
did. Am I just being compulsive?
No Shoes, No Shirt, No Service
Dear Stunned by Shoeless People,
The Yenta herself prefers bare feet to shoes so
maybe she cannot be objective about this.
However, the Yenta would say "is it all
right if I take off my shoes"? Some
households prefer that you do take them off
unless of course, you haven't washed your feet in
ages. Was the young man emitting noxious fumes
from the foot area? Did he have socks on? Were
they clean? Did they in fact, stay only 10
minutes or did the visit extend itself?
If nothing was offensive about it, I'd say let it
go. However the next time when they come over you
might say: "Oh, you don't have to remove
your shoes in my house" and see what they
P.S. Perhaps you feel self conscious about your
own feet? Maybe it's time you got a pedicure and
got over it.....Happy New Year!